Vanessa's wedding!

This past weekend, I was honored to serve as Vanessa's bridesmaid in her wedding to Brandon. Here's just a few photos from the weekend.

Happy Mother's Day

Today is Mother’s Day!!!

We're pretty goofy.

Once again, I am not where I can hug my mother on this day. Last year, on Father’s Day, I wrote a post honoring my wonderful father, so this year I want to honor my even more wonderful mother.

So here are just a few of the life lessons I learned and wonderful things about my Mother!

First, I would like to say that my mom and I have had a tumultuous relationship, especially while in my teens. Dad says it is because we are so similar in temperament. I don’t know. However, as I grew up, our relationship has gotten so strong.

This post was difficult for me to write. I struggled with getting my thoughts on paper.

With my father, it was so easy because many of the lessons are easy to explain. But how does one explain that she has taught me everything I know about life.

But here it goes. Mom, I hope that you enjoy this.

1. She has been such an example of what a wife and mother is to be. If I can be just half of the woman my mother is, then I will be happy. We call her the Domestic Goddess and Mary Poppins (because she is practically perfect in every way).She stayed at home from the time I was born until I was in high school. We never came home to an empty house. While my other friends were cooking themselves ramen noodles and Mac-n-cheese, I was getting home cooked meals for every meal (she fixed our lunches most of the time). I remember having tea parties and inviting her when I was small. She sewed so many of my clothes. Our house was always clean.
2. She showed me how strong women can be. While my father traveled for his job, she ran the household. She pays the bills and manages everything for our home. While they make decisions together, she is one of the strongest and most practical women I know.
3. She taught me how to be a self sufficient person. She taught me how to cook, clean and sew. Because of her, I have never turned my white laundry pink, or had to always eat out. Because of her, I know how to keep a house clean. When I do have a question, she is the one I call.  I don’t know how many women I know who are my age, who can barely cook and don’t have any idea about housekeeping. Because of my mother, I am not one of them.
4. She showed me what a Godly woman looks like. Every morning, I would get up and go into the living room where she would be having her quiet time or praying. Every morning.
5. She was always there for me. Because my dad traveled for his job, she is the one who was there for us. She was at my games and concerts. She was at every birthday. If I forgot my lunch or project at home, I called her. She tucked me in at night, singing “Swing Low” to me.
6. She has such a big heart. My mother is generous to a fault. If you need anything, and it is in her power, she will do it for you or give it to you. When the missions team at her church went to Nicaragua, they reported that many of the girls don’t have a nice dress to wear to church on Sundays. So my mother organized people to sew Pillowcase dresses to send to Nicaragua. She sewed hundreds of them herself! HUNDREDS!!
7. Even though, she puts herself down and tells you that she isn’t smart, SHE IS!!! She is one of the most practical people I know. She has common sense in spades.
8. She is the steady influence that keeps the family together. Without her, we would be lost. 
   

Convictions

A few weeks ago, I was attacked (verbally) for my beliefs. I’m not talking about my Christian faith. No I’m talking about the hot topic right now (Homosexuality). It came out of nowhere. I have never openly stated what I believe, because up to this point, I figured if someone knows me and my faith in God, that they would know what I stand for. I had never been asked outright. Even more, I have never doubted what my convictions are.

In my small group, there were some people who were trying to figure out what their convictions were. One of the guys decided that he would write out his thoughts about homosexuality on Facebook. I was the first person to comment on it. I simply said that I was proud of him for expressing his beliefs. I did not state my beliefs, or say I agreed with him. (I do, though) It exploded with vicious comments and arguments. He later removed the post because of the vehement arguments that people were conducting.

Weeks later, I was at a restaurant owned by a foreigner. I was having a great meal with my friends when the owner started talking to us about the writer of that post. He then proceeded to point out that I supported this friend and his beliefs. He began to list all of the reasons that I was wrong and all the reasons that Homosexuality is ok. He asked me what would happen if someone in my family was a homosexual. He told me that Jonathan and David were lovers.  I told him, I didn’t want to discuss it. He got flustered and told me that was my problem.

Instead of handling it well, I just told him again, I didn’t want to talk about it and left it at that.

What I should have said was that I was having a (rare) dinner with my girls and I didn’t want to waste that time talking about something of that nature. I did not bring the subject up, he did. No matter what either of us said, we were not going to change each other’s minds, so why bother wasting time about it.

He didn’t ask either of the other two girls who share the same convictions what they believed. No he attacked me because I supported a friend on his convictions.

I left the restaurant upset and cried on the way home.

I honestly don’t know how, as Christians, we are to handle these situations. I try to love people. I don’t care if you are Homosexual, atheist, Muslim, whatever, I want to show you love. But I don’t have to agree with your choices. I am not forcing anyone to agree with mine. But people who are against Christianity don’t feel the same way. To them, I am hateful and wrong and must be argued with. I don’t like to talk about these kinds of things, because it only makes others angry.

So here is what I believe.

I believe that Homosexuality is a sin.

The Bible says it is and if you believe that the Bible is truth, you can’t argue with this.

We should not condone sin.

I believe that we (as Christians) should continue to show love to Homosexual people.

Jesus ate with prostitutes and lepers.

I don’t know what this world will look like in 20 years (when I’m 46), but I am sure that homosexuality will still be around. We are not going to escape it. I don’t have the answers. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what is going to happen. But I do know this: God knows. He will not abandon us. Perhaps we will continue to be ridiculed for our beliefs. This will be the same until Jesus returns.

But  we must show love.

***** Not that anyone reads this, but please, please, please don't start vicious arguments or tell me that I'm dumb or whatnot... That's the point of this whole post.